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Bullying Beyond School Walls

by Mary Cole

My child has been the victim of bullies for a long time and I just wanted to take the time to speak out on this malicious crime. My daughter is now 15 years old and has been the target of many hateful jokes, pranks and harmful rumors for the last 7 years. My child is a quite soft spoken girl who is kind to everyone she comes in contact with. She is a slim child a bit tall with a dark brown complexion.

She has always tried to befriend her peers without judgment. The students in her class started off by snickering behind her back about her clothes or shoes whatever they chose that given day. This developed into larger group of students laughing at her in passing, verbal speaking out against her and of course name calling.

There were reports to the school that were not addressed. The final straw came when my daughter called me literally in tears from her school bus crying and saying there was a gang of girls on the bus who were threatening to jump her as soon as the bus reached the school and there was even talk of a weapon. The individuals involved were never disciplined for their actions. The school counselor actually said my daughter was partially responsible because she tried to get along with the students and ignore negative comments. The only option left for me was to withdrawn her from school.

My daughter is now home schooled and doing well. She is also starting to act and model. The sad thing for her is that these attacks have continued via internet and there are several bullies still conspiring against her on sites like Facebook. I am at my wits end with this situation. I have copied the dialog between theses students online, admitting how they harassed my daughter on regular basis and are actually bragging about it. They have no remorse for their actions and I fear there are many students still prey to their attacks. I plan on reporting this to Facebook, the school system and anyone who will listen. These malicious acts must stop before we lose another child to suicide or lose a large number of students due to a troubled child's response to these attacks.

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by: Trinity

Hi, those little b*tches who are tormenting your daughter are going to grow up to be nasty workplace bullies and victimise other soft sweet women. I would suggest a psychologist through the public mental health system that would teach her resilience skills. Or go to this website: http://www.pathwayshrc.com.au/ and order some of their books and manuals that are age appropriate for your child. Ask your daughter to stop using the computer for three months to give her a break while she builds up her inner resources again. Good luck.

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by: Anonymous

I was the victim of bullying myself. I empathize with you and your poor daughter. You describe her as soft-spoken and kind. I, too, share those personality traits, and she, like me, probably finds it difficult to stand up for herself. Removing her from the situation helps, but guiding her and giving her the skills to deal with such people and situations will help in the long run. She needs to learn to stand up for herself, and speak up. I am thirty-one years old, and it took me years to figure this out. You cannot protect her forever, but you can help her gain the necessary skills to deal with the unfortunate people she will come across in her life. As you know, there are more out there, and so many of us have to continue to deal with them throughout life.
On a sidenote, I also think these girls target her because she has something they want. You say she is involved in modeling and acting, and from your description, she sounds like quite an attractive child. These girls sounds like jealous creatures, because, perhaps, she is pretty and kind, and they feel threatened by her.
Tell her to hold on, it does get better, and I hope she finds her way. She sounds like a wonderful young woman.

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