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Effects of Bullying
How Does Workplace Bullying Progress
and What are the Common Stages Targets Experience?
of bullying can sneak up on you...
— apparently working safely and content.
effects of bullying begin to appear.
may notice some incidents at work: probably
nothing major, no big scenes, just 'stuff' that
effects of bullying start to impact health.
may begin to notice some health problems, unlike
you, not ones you have experienced before. Sleep
disturbance is often an early one. A change
in your eating habits may happen - either eating
more or less or differently. It is the change,
not the behavior itself that is important, relevant
'incidents' at work may either intensify (be
more powerful and 'upfront') or multipy (be
of co-workers are skewed by bully.
As the behavior continues co-workers may begin to alter
the way they relate to you. Some formerly close
may begin to withdraw (they are afraid of being
guilty by association - they have picked up
that you are somehow to be treated differently.)
of bullying cause stress and depression.
Your health problems may become more intrusive.
(See Stress Symptoms and Depression
Physical problems -
especially the lack of a good night's sleep
- will begin to cause emotional problems. How
chatty and friendly will you feel with only
3 hours sleep a night!
Once again it is the
change more than the condition itself which
suggests an increasingly unhealthy situation.
of bullying take toll on health.
As your physical and emotional health deteriorates some
of what you have been falsely accused of doing
(or not doing) at work may become almost accurate.
You may become forgetful, clumsy, short tempered,
over emotional and near to tears.
The 'team player' (awful
phrase) will want less and less to do with anyone.
The quieter, more introverted employee will
become almost totally isolated.
Again it is the change
more than the condition itself which suggest
an increasingly unhealthy situation.
of the puzzle come together.
the connection: this is the crucial moment.
You will connect the very odd and complex range
of mental and physical health problems with
your similarly odd and complex workplace. This
revalation may come from reading an article,
or seeing a list of behaviors and symptoms of
workplace bullying on a website.
This moment will be
both a shock and a relief. Yes you are a bit
'nuts' and this is why and this is normal.
the effects of bullying.
Research and information obsession. Having made the
link and named your situation as 'workplace
bullying' or 'mobbing' you will likely devour
many articles, books and pursue websites and
the links they offer for several weeks.
This stage of informing
yourself is important but can become compulsive
and obsessive. The reassurance you get that
you are not alone in your feelings or experience
is excellent; the 'horribilizing' is not.
and logic take a holiday.
innate sense of justice, fairplay and right
and wrong will be hugely over-stimulated.
I was right; this is
wrong; I must be 'heard'; logic will be restored
and then I and my injured workplace will be
healed and restored.
However, in 99% of cases
justice and logic will continue to be abandoned
by your coworkers and management.
of bullying not understood by professionals.
This is when you will invest great amounts of time and
energy and hope in official bodies and professionals.
Of all these supposed
sources of succor only one or two will probably
truly hear you...
Someone said they
heard about a case...
Workers Compensation Board
Your Psychologist or Therapist
worsens due to effects of bullying.
you are an injured worker, dealing with maybe
5 agencies who you believe can solve your situation.
You may still be having
to go to work and the continuing bullying that
entails, or you may be on 'stress' leave, sick
leave or some differently titled absence from
None of these places
is one of safety or healing reflection.
of bullying cost you and the employer.
luck and support you will come to realize that
true resolution involving your continued employment
is not possible and your energies should best
be focussed on the cleanest way of leaving the
abusive workplace. If you need a union or a
lawyer to work on this that is one area they
can help you with.
You will need time (and
time = money) and access to health resources
- psychologists, etc.
from the effects of bullying takes time.
leave the abusive workplace.
You think you should
find a new job as quickly as possible.
You are probably in
no state to search for a new position.
You need time to heal.
yourself the time you need to recover.
time you need to heal sufficiently to think
of returning to work will depend on how long
you were bullied, how intense it was, how early
you make the connection, your support and how
you have dealt with change before.
effects of bullying behind you may be difficult.
The first few weeks
in any new job are always difficult - you know
you should be doing something but half the time
you have no idea what, you want to impress but
not appear too desperate to please, you want
to be friendly not 'gushy'.
As a former target of
workplace bullying you may have intrusive flashbacks.
A certain look, a call to an impromptu meeting,
a clumsy exchange with a new co-worker or a
rookies's misunderstanding may all cause worry
Time is the only healer.
Being your own true
principled and high performing self is the only
way to move forward.
Not only is this revealing
your best qualities but also if there should
be a bully on board at your new workplace, these
qualities will be the ones they hate and wish
Better they are provoked
into showing their colors to you early, rather
than you dicovering that this is another bullying
workplace in months or years time.
But, with the knowledge,
tools and precautions to spot an abusive workplace
before you join one, you are unlikely to be
faced with this situation and what is required
is time to learn to trust again.
you ever recover from the effects of bullying?
Will you ever be the same again,
back to your usual self?
Firstly, if you have
a broken leg you may regain full mobility, but
once every now and again a damp day or a cold
day or a certain movement will give you a dull
ache or a twinge. This is also true with the
effects of workplace bullying.
Secondly, you will have
a far deeper and useful self-knowledge than
ever before. You may truly know that 'alone
time' is crucial for your health, or a gregarious
romp is necessary for your happiness.
You will be determined
to seek out whatever it is you have learned
Enjoy your newly discovered
rediscovered self awareness;
you have earned it.
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