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An Unusual Case of Bullying
I have a most unusual story of bullying.
It involves my local 'friendly' supermarket. I am a customer there and have been so for many years. Two women who have worked there for a long time seemed to decide that for some reason, they didn't like me and chose to ignore me or send me to Coventry. However, out of the two, there is one in particular who seems bent on causing trouble. She works at the checkout. The other just stacks shelves.
I am certain that the checkout operator gossips or says negative things about me, but there is no way I can prove it. All I do know is that, sometimes when she has been nearby opening bags and I have approached a checkout, the atmosphere seemed so icy you could have cut the air with a knife.
Also this particular checkout assistant has been unpleasant towards me and always walked away, or refused to help me with opening bags to put shopping in etc. In the end I thought I could solve the problem by simply staying away from her and using other checkouts, which I have been doing.
Furthermore, I ignored such behaviour on the grounds that some shop staff simply are that way inclined, and you can't make friends with everybody, although I do try my hardest to be pleasant with everyone in there.
However, a few weeks ago, things took a decidedly nasty turn. I had not been visiting the store during the hours that these two people are working there. But one day I turned up when they were there, and I could see the checkout assistant staring at me as I walked through the door.
I ignored her and carried on. But for the rest of that week whenever I went in there, they would seem to find every opportunity for walking past me and literally 'staring' me out until they passed by. And they were very unpleasant and unfriendly looks, as if designed to make me feel uncomfortable. The one who stacks the shelves even made a face at me by 'sneering' as she walked by and this happened on several occasions.
I got home and immediately phoned the Management and told them what was happening.
The Manager seemed supportive and asked me who they were. I asked to remain anonymous as I didn't want to make things worse. He said they would get back to me but so far I have heard nothing.
However, I feel something has been said to them, since I am no longer getting the provocative glares, but they still ignore me or freeze me out, which is something I never expected to change.
I am not sure if the story will end there. I am now often using my supermarket at different hours, preferably to avoid them.
But one things worries me. I am wondering if they will get the evening staff to join in with their bullying behaviour. Although I remained anonymous when I reported them, they must have their suspicions that it was me. I cannot imagine they are doing this to anybody else, and things could get worse.