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I have worked for a college for five years. The first two years were good; really good and I thought I had found the place from which I would retire.
Then he, that Director, was promoted to Dean in another functional area of the college and I was left to run the entire department by myself with no time for training and one campus and one off campus center to cover. I did it, but it was two extra hours every day.
A new director came in a year later. Her first conversation was that she wasn't here to make friends. Her second comment was that people at her former college said that she hurt people's feelings. (Okay... you starting to see this picture?)
I would guess that my director is 20 years younger than I and we are a department of two, she and me. That's it.
She slams her door when she is angry. At one point she was angry with me about something and did not speak to me for six weeks. She has not spoken to a Director at another campus since April (four months ago) because she is peeved at her.
She says I talk about her to everyone. This is not true.
This June, with no warning, she gave me an unsatisfactory rating based upon "failure to control my written and oral communications." She says my e-mails are nasty. I have saved 700 e-mails and I can't understand how she could say any of them are aggressive. I can't go above her because her Dean thinks she's wonderful because my director is a mole who tells on everyone when she perceives they said or did something wrong.
Leaving is not an option. I am 59 years old and the job market is impossible for someone at that age. I have to survive at least another year, but I now have all the symptoms of stress. HR says it's between me and my supervisor.
I have an appointment with my counselor and my doctor today to see what to do about the stress and if I can at least get a short term disability.
I cry for hours every Sunday night.
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