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Ex Boyfriend Nightmare
I dated a man for 5 years. We had a good relationship. I worked hard to treat him well and he worked hard to treat me well. Four years into the relationship he got hired at the company I work for and he suddenly changed. He was angry all of the time and one day it was apparent to both of us it was time to break up.
He has since then made several decisions which are a complete surprize to me. He has decided to have a sex change operation and is bullying me by saying he will have me fired for sexual harassment because he now has the paranoid idea that I am talking about him all of the time.
We broke up 10 years ago. I am just your average middle aged plump older woman. I am happy in a new relationship (really it is a quite a longstanding relationship) and I am just not doing anything of the kind. I quite honestly have more positive things to talk about in my life and prefer to dwell on these things rather than the unexplainable past.
I like my job but I keep getting emails where he accuses me of speaking to all sorts of people and talking about him. Most of the people he refers to are not even people I know. He says sly mean and threatening things to me at work and I get a lot of hang up phone calls at home from blocked phone numbers.
I had no idea he was unhappy with his sexuality when we dated. How can I stop this form of bullying?
I want to keep my job with the company I work for and that is why his actions are so effective. He wants me to be unhappy and fear him/her. I think that if either of us filed an official complaint the company would probably just fire us both because that is just the kind of company they are.
Sex change operations are not very common and although I do not allow anyone to speak to me about him or his latest surgeries or look I cannot stop others from gossiping about him.
Somehow I am trapped in something that really doesn't have anything to do with me.
Do you have any advice for me?