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Harassed At Every Job I Had

by T
(Pennsylvania)

To start off, I will refer myself to as "T" in these situations. I am a 25 year old female, and I decided to focus my all in getting a bachelors instead of working these jobs.

I was a nursing assistant (CNA) since 2014 at various nursing homes. I was never able to land a job in a hospital but I decided this CNA BS is not the job for me anymore. When I was a CNA, I was always the youngest and shortest CNA there at 5'2". I got messed with at every nursing home. I would ask for help with lifting and transferring a resident, the other CNAS would say they are busy or disappear. But almost every shift, I was asked for help constantly to the point where I was behind in my own work.

I was hired in 2016 at this nursing home. This CNA was going around in residents rooms (the more alert ones) talking shit to them and when I came in the room to do my job, the resident would scream at me saying I am a bad worker. I told the charge nurse about it saying the resident is denying my care when it's the first time I seen her. I was trying to feed the residents during dinner time. 3 women ganged up on me, they kept hogging all the residents that need to be fed and was ordering me to pick up the trays instead. The fourth floor which is memory care was flooding and they made me clean it up while they gossiped at the nurses station. I had incidents when I needed help because someone is falling, I would yell for help and no one came. I ended up fired because of it. I haven't been working as a CNA for about a year now. Now the CNA field wasn't the only place I got harassed in.

I worked as a cashier at Rite Aid, I got bullied. Coworker would nitpick everything I do and make a huge deal about it, gossiping to other coworkers about me. One example, it was slow so I was stocking up the areas near my front register. This girl I worked with said my back was turned, she could have jumped over the counter and stole cigs. She kept talking about it for 10 mins and told the manager about it. Then she spent 20 mins talking about how my voice is flat, it's one toned and it's weird. WHAT THE HELL. She got on my last nerves. I didn't last long there.

Then I was a bar hostess for 2 days, I quit that too. This 27 year old chick kept nitpicking me and stalking everything I do. I was new there, the bar/restaurant just opened so they had 3 girls training up at the bar hostess area. I saw that 27 year old chick sit people down and forgot to give them the menu. I didn't say nothing to her. But every time I seated people down in a section, she would walk over to their table looking for mistakes. She came up to my face yelling "You forgot to give the kids the coloring books" in front of everybody.

I recently obtained a job as a temp in a mailing room. I was hired specifically for the weekends only and already I am being hated on. It is so stupid and ignorant, I was there 3 weeks and left. I was fine until I was asked to be trained under this woman "C". If I open my mouth and ask her anything or say anything, she started acting like I did something to her when I just met her. For example, I just made a comment saying isn't it funny how this company has lock boxes that people send payments and correspondences to. She started saying out loud "that is what you are hired for, that's why you are here, if they didn't have lock boxes they wouldn't even need you here". She said it in a rude tone. I made a very angry face at her and didn't respond. Through out the day, her and her best friend coworker kept looking for mistakes that I did so they can yell about it out loud.

When I worked with another woman that is scanning my batch of files, that woman did not say anything to me for 12 hours, she didn't complain about anything with me, meaning that I really did a good job. But when I worked with the two women, they kept complaining about me non-stop. The woman C kept asking me weird rude questions like she is clearly making up things about me. She was sitting there asking me if I smoke weed, do drugs and pop pills. She was asking me what else do I do when I am off work .

I asked her does this company allow someone to work doubles. When I was a CNA, they use the term Double for working a 16 hour shift. The woman never heard the term Double before and started busting out laughing loud as hell saying what is a double to her best friend. I was so annoyed I was at my limit and it was only 2 days working with them. If I say anything to them, they either bust out laughing at me or act like I did something. I never showed up the following week. I am calling the staffing agency to quit this Friday.

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Can totally relate!
by: E

I just wanted to say I read your story and can totally relate to it. I'm so sorry you've been through so much crap! It's really a shame that in a place where we should be able to make our money and leave, we're forced to deal with treatment like this.

I too have been bullied at every job I've had.

First job-bullied by two coworkers at different intervals who didn't last long, never by a manager, though I will say the owner gave me some flack for not giving him enough advance notice for camping trips while employees would constantly call me at the last minute pleading me to cover their shifts.

First professional job-bullied by my supervisor who demoted me because I "wasn't fast enough" in the file room, though she never would elaborate about what she meant. Was paid half of what coworkers were paid to do the same job (found this out after leaving).

Accused over time of errors I never made. For the longest time, I didn't have proof that she was setting me up. When my grandfather ended up in the hospital down the street and I was unable to walk to go visit and had made arrangements with a coworker to take me down over lunch, the boss overheard us and snapped that one of us had to cover the switchboard. There were two part-time employees who literally did nothing all day who could've done it. I rose a stink about it, and got it covered. I gave my notice that day.

After being unemployed for a year and a half, had a retail job, which wasn't bad for about three years. If you were a good-enough worker and a manager didn't like you, they cycled out so often that if you could stay under their radar until they left, it was good.

Left that job after abusive managers stopped cycling out, store manager left, they fired overnight cashiers and expected me to do their jobs and mine for the same wage.

Got a job delivering food. Loved the company and owner but had trouble with the night manager and owner's girlfriend immediately. Went to days to get away from the night manager, but things didn't change so I left.

Got another delivery job in my neighborhood but didn't last a month. The customers were the worst I've ever dealt with, and the manager decided to use me as a convenient scapegoat one night we were really behind on deliveries after another driver walked out. I left in lieu of getting fired.

Then I changed cities, got another delivery job. One manager spread negative energy so badly nobody wanted to work with her, and me and her were often alone for twelve hours on Sundays while I made orders and delivered food on a driver's wage and she did nothing.

When I complained, they had another manager I trusted there helping us the weekend after. They told me they were waiting for this manager's schedule change to go through and he would be the one in charge after that. Then the weekend after that, another manager who was supposed to be with us got mad at the money she was making, and left me and the problem manager and a new employee she managed to rope to her side, started ganging up on me, to the point I felt threatened and walked out.

For a month the company and the manager I liked tried to call me telling me everything was a done deal, manager was demoted and new employee was fired but it was too little too late for me as far as I was concerned. I mean when you've been through this enough times, you just start thinking it's a big joke to everybody else (and many times it is unfortunately).

A month later I had to call all three of my former employers of the year before to get new copies of my W2 because they got lost in the mail. The owner of most recent job asked my side of the story, I told her, she offered me any days I wanted to come back and I wasn't making any money so I agreed.

I also grew up in a narcissistic abusive household so this is how it all started for me. Nobody ever taught me I could demand a certain level of respect and consideration but I can. Now there's very little I'll put up with from an employer. I wish you luck! It's tough out there, I know...

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