My Son John
When John was in first grade, he started saying things like "I'm stupid" or "I'm dumb"... I would tell him he was not stupid or dumb, and why was he saying those things about himself? He told me that the kids in his class kept telling him he was.
Being that it was first grade, I thought it would pass in time, but by 3rd grade, it wasn't passing, the constant name calling was continuing. He started saying things like "mom you don't know what I go though at school"… "I can't take it anymore...". Then, I actually saw the bullying with my own eyes a couple of times, so I knew then he wasn't exaggerating.
All the bullying of my son was starting to effect him psychologically. He had very low self-esteem, didn't want to participate in sports because the other boys would call him names and make fun of him when he did. He started exhibiting signs of depression.
The beginning of 4th grade, I went to the principal and had a meeting with her on the bullying of my son by his class. She suggested what he should do when kids were bullying him, like walk away, etc... This made me mad, because the kids who perpetrated these acts were getting away with this behavior and were not being reprimanded. He was experiencing subtle bullying in the classroom, as well as overt bullying on the playground. The bullying was everywhere for him!
I find that the school does very little to combat the bullying, and doesn't take issue with the perpetrators. And, they seemed to try to build a case against my son afterwards, maybe to protect their interests, like sending him home reprimands for talking, which seemed to happen in excess after I reported the bullying, but rarely before.
I am to the point now where I will take my son out of the public school and put him in a private school, and if worse comes to worse, I will have him tutored and home-schooled for the remainder of his school years. I don't know what else to do.