I was bullied. First at home by my Father who inflicted physical pain with the hose, his fists, punches; kicks. He emotionally and psychologically tormented our family. Mum was beaten. Everything was about him. Dad encouraged my elder sister to abuse me and she did and mercilessly so. Dad found it amusing.
At school, I seemed to attract the bullies. I was always frightened and always looking over my shoulder. The schoolyard was just a place I could get hit, and or called names. If I complained to a Teacher, the bullies ganged up and said I was lying. The Teachers always believed the majority. I started wagging school. I wanted to die and once drank poison. At work, more bullying.
Eventually I had a breakdown and through therapy was able to slowly find the strength to turn my life around. I learned how to stand up for myself and how to say no successfully.
The bullies have not faired well in their lives. My life is now great - a professional career, family, friends and now Grandchildren.
My advice to Victims, is to report assaults to Police; even if it is happening at school. If they are over 10 years old, they can be charged. Stand up to the bullies.
I was at a shopping centre recently and someone who knew me; but I could not recall their name came up to me and started abusing me in the supermarket. I very politely invited them to stop and to go away. The bully was furious that I did not remember her. I again asked the bully to go away. Always use a civil tone. When this didn't happen, I called the Police. Finally, the bully learned that her behaviour was inappropriate.
Don't give up. You have a right to be happy and you should claim that right.
All the best.
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