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Setting Boundaries With Workplace Bullies Back Fires at Hospital Where I Worked
by Anonymous Ninja
I worked at a well-established hospital. I'm a hard worker and didn't like to gossip. Kept to myself.
Nurses and other staff would stare me down, gossip, and spread rumours about me. They made fun of me indirectly and subtly while looking at me. I heard them close to my office trying to get under my skin. I remained calm. Ignored that it even happened. I noticed more staff got involved. Left sticky notes on doctor's door and wrote on white boards, mocking me.
I realized after a while that my mental health is important than a negative work environment. I decided to set boundaries. I talked to the unit manager. She spoke to everyone involved. They all denied it ever happened. Manager didn't believe anyone made these comments/acts. I documented each incident, presented to management.
Everyone seemed to behave better after they were spoken to. I worked overnight to avoid certain staff. Bullying came back again. Subtle jokes. Taking jabs at me. I talked to counselors about setting healthy boundaries at work. I built enough courage to set boundaries on my own. I talked to a male nurse after he was done work. I stated what he said and I would appreciate it if he would stop making rumours and jokes about me. He acted innocent and shocked. He denied everything. To be expected.
During my time off, my manager contacted me. He wanted me to transfer to the city to be on-call. I gave it a thought. Got back to him a week later. I resigned my job due to loss of hours with low pay to lots of kilometers away. Also, risk of getting COVID-19 during code red. I didn't burn any bridges. Got a good reference. My mental health is more important than a toxic workplace.
Thank you for those that took the time to read my story. God bless. Wish everyone the courage to stand up for your rights to these bullies. Do it in a dignified manner.