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The Answer To Dealing With A Bully
I thank you for this opportunity to share a bit about some rough experiences I had in three separate working environments.
Up 'til 1993; work was...'work' / I came, I did, I went home to come again and do again. A nice daily routine. It took a while...but I have discovered 'the reason' bullying happens and that's what I want to share. I hope you will allow me to speak of 'the spirit' of life. Yes, God.
Why it is that even if we are being a good worker in the job hired for -- things don't go smooth? Why are there difficult people? It's not management per se and it's not 'the co worker person' (before I say 'the word' that is responsible; let me give the spirit 'cure' found in that good book; the Bible.) The answer is:
Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the things that are upon the earth.*found in Matthew I believe.
We were warned by God, in flesh (for you who understand) "in this world you will have trials and tribulations; fear not I have overcome the world." "if they hated me, He said, they will hate you." "If we belonged to the world the world would love us; but we do not belong to the world."
There's two views to living: earthly view or looking up at what is above. Where one's heart is, that is what we treasure. 'THE WORLD' wants the power, prestige and $$ and praise of mankind (short term gains really) Those looking to what is above where they are at present is looking towards...heaven. (on earth and eternal life) For the long view; we can endure anything if need be and even make this cross we endure; a good. Accept the cross of a 'broken' 'sin filled' world and use the time spent with some who live contrary to the golden rule to our benefit. Show them our love; which they need. By love, I mean our patience, our endurance of them, teach them a better way as needed. Show them the God way to attain. Put on /GOD; Christ (I hope this stays up; even if religious)
As long as we do not point at 'imperfection', a company will keep us. The world hates correction. Folks who are God knowing (humble) accept correction. We show our spirit 'in action.' He who came not to condemn but save by love (showing them concern; guiding them)
Offer up suffering and struggles with difficult people for the Strength of God, in flesh and greater faith in good. Offer up the struggles we go thru to God (silently) for a specific intention. Make the work day redemptive for our souls. Carry our cross with great faith and not a whimper.
Remember, the earthly view works for the short term gain of a paycheck. For this; THEY ARE THE WORLD; they are insecure. They get nervous when 'new' comes in with them. The look at what is above crowd has an eye toward heaven. Goals for the long term. If we take a job because we need to gain experience; realize we are being placed right within THE WORLD (trials and tribulations shall come; especially when a firm sets no standards for all and there is little procedural ways 'written in stone' and the work is sparse to do. Computers, automation and outsourcing)
Realize we will come up against those who will hate us 'out of fear' of losing all that they have /in some way; it may be necessary to assure them their value (build them up) I am shy; and get tongue tied and yes, I do value experience but also get intimidated by experience; and simply have looked for 'they' to make the first good word move towards me. It is permissible when new to say to someone who is colleague with a title that we took the job in the hope we would learn much about ... whatever; this might reassure the insecure one that their job is safe; tell them of our intent. SPEAK first, don't be shy and intimidated. Bullies 'can pick up that fear scent fast.'
Another -- look at what is above way of avoiding a bully atmosphere is to 'not' take work of a general work nature.
Choose a vocational trade that is unique with your abilities that not many can do. Auto mechanic, hairdresser, Xray technician, Pharmacy technician, illustrator, etc. The security is in the gift one has and can do. An auto care place; seldom wants to terminate someone who knows fixing cars and gets to know the customers (who look specifically for this person) Same with a dental technician; the customers like consistency and so 'once hired' HIRED. (one job function; one person) If working within a general office doing general office work, 'at the first slowdown of economics' 'the bottom line' of business will be ousting' / In times such as we have today, Where general work is very little; the insecure 'world' will do anything to 'get rid of all competition to them.'
This is what I learned about 'the world' and 'why we have bullying.'
Folks lack faith in the God who will take care of them always and so with that and less understanding of morals; do to others as we wish it done to self - is simply NOT THERE.