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Hopeless In The Workplace
My ex-husband works in the same facility that I do and so did the woman that he married. They have both gone out of their way to spread their warped, distorted image of me and my past far and wide, including at the facility where he and I work. She has told as many of the employees and people in the facility that she knows as well as many, many people in the church and neighboring communities where we live. This woman does not know me at all and knows only what my ex has told her. My image has been so tarnished and discredited, that many people will not even speak to me and no one will befriend me or include me in. I have been laughed at, talked about, ostresized, ignored, shunned, rejected, humiliated, made fun of, continually for 4 years.
I have made mistakes in the past, but basically lived a good life, helped alot of people, and raised my children to be good, contributing, successful adults. I am a good person. So many people have been told their version of the story that it is impossible for me to move forward with my life, date, or even have a social life. I have had nightmares about it, get extremely depressed over having to go to work, have been told that my experience is the equivalent of PTSD, and have suffered so much pain and anguish over this that I feel that my life is hopeless and don't even try anymore to interact or succeed. I feel that I have lost all my dignity.
I live in a small town and with the economy the way it has been, options for changing jobs are zero. Everytime I think that things are getting better, a whole new round of gossip and humiliation starts. Funny thing is that this man chased and chased after me until I agreed to date and marry him. Also, he was the one that had real issues and refused to own them. I did everything I could to make the marriage work and the counselors would ask me how long I was going to continue being his counselor.
He was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive and denies it all. Instead, he has everyone believing that I was the abusive one. I was never the aggressor, it was always him. I was more a victim in that marriage, and he has come out destroying my life and appearing the innocent party. Despite trying everything, I have not been able to overcome this situation and recover my dignity. Does anyone know what I can do to resolve this situation?