My Workplace Bullying Story And Advise To All Decent People
by M C
I like to give you my story, regarding workplace bullying. I was a victim of it myself. I am old now, and being offered a new job will be hard for many reasons. My only regret is that I was not aware as to why I was constantly picked on. Why I was often labelled and why people were amused when I struggled with meeting deadlines. I had a problem, yet a bit of support would have fixed it all. Instead people made fun of me.
If only it was understood that being made fun of can seriously injure a decent human being. Bullying did more damage to me, than any one would ever know. I changed when I experienced something in an office that instilled so much fear and changed me forever. I had nowhere to turn. No family of my own or husband and no support behind me. If someone told me that I would be out of work for years after my experience, I would have found a loaded gun and shot myself. Looking back today, there is no way that I would have accepted the path which lay before me. But, here I am, telling my story.
To all decent people joining a company I say to you, be sure of where you want to carve out a career. Get information before accepting a job. Companies are selective when it comes to helping individuals move ahead in an industry too. They know very early which ones they want to support. If you are not one of them, then find another job, very quickly or your self esteem and confidence to say the least will suffer.
In my job, I wanted so much to believe I had found the career of my dreams, but something was wrong. In all my years of working there, I never moved up one notch. I then made a mistake and experienced an act that was so severe, most of me died there and then. An act that like so many others, was never brought to justice. It happened because I was a target of bullying. The act was hidden and I was labelled the problem so to save the company from admitting fault.
For once I learned what being frightened to death felt like. I was stopped from working, to say the least. As days became months and then years, I was slowly losing energy and appreciation for life. All my skills, finances, dreams, goals, and assets disappearing before me. If only someone had taught me about bullying and the law.
I then became sick and in time I decided to have a blood test. It was years after my injury that I finally showed a doctor a health condition I had been hiding. A health condition that could have been prevented if the company responsible took some interest in me. It was explained to me, of what I was suffering from. I walked out of the surgery relieved. The fear, pain, and worry for some reason disappeared.
My time now is limited, but I am happy because I will finally be with loved ones and no one can ever hurt me again. I no longer need to try to fit in, or explain myself to people or feel ashamed or embarrassed when I ask for work or look for a job. Soon, I will be resting, and with the people I once loved. I am glad, because this company can never hurt me again.
Bullying is a crime and any company that supports it, needs to be shut down.