"What is bullying", happened to me too. When the tables get turned on you and you're accused of bullying the bully, there is that moment that makes you question your actions. But that's a good thing. It means that you care. I was upset to think that my actions might have caused the bully pain. A bully on the other hand doesn't have those worries, those feelings, those thoughts. They are out to hurt you.
Perception... yours, the bully's and who ever else is involved. The difference, it's a game for the bully. They're getting a rush out of it, truly enjoying every minute of it and planning their next move. We, on the other hand, are sick and keep getting sicker. The third party, management, who is going to come in and save the day, (don't hold your breath) is just annoyed with the lot of us and think us all a bunch of badly behaved babies and the whole thing a waste of time.
Sadly, my story does not have a happy ending. I am off work, off life, and on medication. Even sadder, is that I received a call shortly after my leave. A co-worker crying, seems the bully is starting a new game.
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