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Software Engineer Faces Workplace Mobbing

by Miguel
(Virginia, USA)

I've recently awoken to this problem because suddenly I have also become a victim of one of these forms of Psychological Harassment, more specifically "Workplace Mobbing". Coworkers and local management have been mobbing against me for more than one year. For example, once I had a colleague shouting loudly at me for more than half an hour about some work that was really well done and innovative. The manager never intervene to stop the harassment.

Colleagues, when no one was looking, would do strange faces or even dance around. In the last few months, that wouldn't even matter anymore, they would do it no matter who would be present in the room since they all are bundled in the same group. All this is driven to try and make you look crazy to anyone you might tell the story to. After all, many people doing the same thing to you at the same time can't be true, right? No, unfortunately not.

I am a Foreigner National and I never experienced anything like this before. I didn't even know what the word "mobbing" really meant until very recently and, I do believe that this people is out to make my life miserable. The managers are the ones controlling the mobbing, and as such, finding work in a different place will be hard since other companies will eventually question them for references. I've recently tried to seek for help from the upper levels of management from another office and although they have investigated it, no one from my office has, and as expected, spoke the truth about the case. Things were badly managed internally and done in an untimely manner.

The law (in US) is really weak and I have not found any place or independent institution that could help investigate the case. I think that a simple lie detector test and/or sworn statement could bring the truth out in most the of cases.

Till the day I still do not know what has motivated these people to attack me in such manner... maybe because I was a easy victim to them, European, no connections in the area and first job in the USA.

Any help or suggestions would be appreciated.

Thanks,

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Apr 12, 2008

Find a Better Place to Work ASAP
by: Anton Hout

Bullies like this will often go after those who they think will be less able to fight back. They may believe that because you are from Europe that you don't have friends and family (your support network) to help you. They may feel that you are vulnerable and need the job and that it would be more difficult for you to find another one. Such is the viciousness of workplace mobbing.

However, it will be easier to find another job now than it will in the future. The abuse is not likely to stop. You've already seen how management supports bullying by doing nothing to stop it. It ignores the problem until you become too insistent - then they will attack you as well.

Staying will take a greater and greater toll on your health, self-esteem and sanity. No one deserves to be slowly tortured at work. I suggest that your best option is to start looking for a better place to work. You may still get a good reference from this place but as time goes on this will become less and less likely.

Find an employer that understands that it makes good business sense to treat its employees with dignity and respect. Employers that support bullying don't deserve to keep talented employees like you.

Apr 30, 2008

Get Out of There
by: Anonymous

I have recently been mobbed, unfortunately we as individuals now recognise what it is and I am currently getting help so that I can now move on with my life, a little less injured and a whole lot wiser. What I do know is that if there is no support from your employer or anyone that can assist you then it will go on unchecked at the expense of your self esteem and dignity. I personally feel elated to be out of the mobbing situation. Now I can reclaim my life.

Jul 10, 2008

Washington US
by: Sandra

You actually do have something you can do. It sounds as if you are an immigrant? Or at least of a different nationality than "white." You can file a harassment claim based on nationality.

I know it's hard, but try to remember that these people are obviously children. The actions you describe are childish and immature. The immature will always target the mature. The incompetent will target the competent. I know what I'm talking about, because I deal with it every day I work.

And you are right. The U.S. is really bad about allowing this behavior in workplaces. So far there are no legal outlets. One person finally won a bullying lawsuit in Indiana. The Joint Commission has ordered this month (July 2008) that all hospitals must have an "anti-bullying" policy in place by next year. We're making progress (though not quickly enough for my taste). So, it may be soon that you can actually sue the company for harassment under bullying.

Jul 13, 2008

Reclaiming Your Self
by: Recovering Target...

Miguel,

What bullying/mobbing is really about, is that (at least in your case) you represent a threat to the status quo, independent thought and integrity, something they don't and never will posess.

Your coworkers sense immediately that you are different, and since you are not like them, then there must be something "wrong" with you... The threat must be vanquished.

Having discovered the truth of your situation is the first step to recovery, even though it is a bitter pill to swollow.

Reading all of the responses from others to this insidious problem leads me to believe that the problem is so large in this country and others, that confronting and effectively dealing with it, would be akin to waking a sleeping giant.

The infrastructure of the entire system would need to be repaired. Like most institutions/organizations, repairs are made only to the surface damages, exhibiting a shiny surface, but below it is crumbling, so management is so busy with patching things, they never get to the root of the problem that is buried deep inside.

I am not saying this is always the case, but I can tell you first hand, once you are targeted, and the mobbing begins, the writing is on the wall, so to speak.

My personal feeling about mobbing is, that it is the exact same behavior found on childrens playgrounds, essentially all grown up, grown up physically not mentally.

I think the basic element of bullying is, the need to control others.

The world needs more sensitive, respectful, civil people.

Please know that others like you whether Nationals or not, are suffering at the hands of these vicious, insensitive people who wake up and go to their "jobs" to make others miserable.

I will never understand, nor do I want to understand, why anyone would go out of their way to abuse another...

I went through a similar situation for four years, thinking that if there were a voice of reason somewhere, then this can be seen for what it really is, there must be someone, somwhere, that can bring this to light ?

First mistake, there is no one. Second mistake, thinking that help will arrive, there is no internal help.

Once you make a "complaint" you have sealed your destiny, at least at your job. The company's "policies and procedures" are in place to protect the status quo, nothing more. Cut your losses and move on, life is to important to give these cretins another day of yours.

I once quoted the companies "mission/vision" statement values to the director and asked, "what does this mean?"

The response was, "we are a team..." I almost threw up. Instead I resigned, I am not recommending resignation is right for everyone, but, you might consider the alternatives to living in an insane, hostile environment.

Help comes in the form of recognition.

Trust your instincts.

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Jul 13, 2008
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Miguel, What bullying/mobbing is really about, is that (at least in your case) you represent a threat to the status quo, independent thought and integrity, something they don't and never will posess. Your coworkers sense immediately that you are different, and since you are not like them, then there must be something "wrong" with you... The threat must be vanquished. Having discovered the truth of your situation is the first step to recovery, even though it is a bitter pill to swollow. Reading all of the responses from others to this insidious problem leads me to believe that the problem is so large in this country and others, that confronting and effectively dealing with it, would be akin to waking a sleeping giant. The infrastructure of the entire system would need to be repaired. Like most institutions/organizations, repairs are made only to the surface damages, exhibiting a shiny surface, but below it is crumbling, so management is so busy with patching things, they never get to the root of the problem that is buried deep inside. I am not saying this is always the case, but I can tell you first hand, once you are targeted, and the mobbing begins, the writing is on the wall, so to speak. My personal feeling about mobbing is, that it is the exact same behavior found on childrens playgrounds, essentially all grown up, grown up physically not mentally. I think the basic element of bullying is, the need to control others. The world needs more sensitive, respectful, civil people. Please know that others like you whether Nationals or not, are suffering at the hands of these vicious, insensitive people who wake up and go to their "jobs" to make others miserable. I will never understand, nor do I want to understand, why anyone would go out of their way to abuse another... I went through a similar situation for four years, thinking that if there were a voice of reason somewhere, then this can be seen for what it really is, there must be someone, somwhere, that can bring this to light ? First mistake, there is no one. Second mistake, thinking that help will arrive, there is no internal help. Once you make a "complaint" you have sealed your destiny, at least at your job. The company's "policies and procedures" are in place to protect the status quo, nothing more. Cut your losses and move on, life is to important to give these cretins another day of yours. I once quoted the companies "mission/vision" statement values to the director and asked, "what does this mean?" The response was, "we are a team..." I almost threw up. Instead I resigned, I am not recommending resignation is right for everyone, but, you might consider the alternatives to living in an insane, hostile environment. Help comes in the form of recognition. Trust your instincts.

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