Asking For Advice...
by Bullied But Headstrong, Forthright And Determined
(Saint Louis, MO, USA)
After a decade of bullying by one coworker, with the covert aid of the department manager, it is still escalating. I am tired of getting dirty looks from people I don't even know and have never spoken with. I am tired of people never just coming to me and asking whether what they have heard is true. I am tired of the department manager clearly condoning and even rewarding the behavior of the bully. I am tired of the department manager as well as the original bully trying so hard to set me up for failure. At least one, if not both, will lie when I do not fail despite the numerous road blocks placed in my path.
I do not feel comfortable with HR as a resource as I do not believe that they would have my best interest at heart. I need advice on how to approach this in a way that will not backfire on me. I might try a slander suit except that every thing is said behind my back and I am never confronted with it to allow for me to present my side. The department manager ensures that no one speaks to you about anything including those things that directly affect your job (convenient isn't it).
Could I prove that this has affected my pay and benefits? Very likely I could. As it is escalating there are those that are seeing the humiliation part of it now. It is no longer covert. I do not believe that anyone would stand up for me though. In court or in the HR office. I don't blame them as we all need our jobs right now.
Understand, I am not a mouse and can stand up for myself. I stood up to the original bully to his face though logically and with a cool head. This only served to put it all behind my back. I can and will stand up against the wishes of the department manager when he wants me to do something that could potentially harm my position. I have honesty and integrity and will not just ignore the actual facts (when the empirical data does not fit the theory just throw out the empirical data, right?). I don't really know if the department manager is aiding and abetting or actually dictating the original slime that has been spewed forth against me.
I seriously need assistance on how to approach resolving this with HR or what would be required for a slander/defamation of character suit.