(Chicago, IL, USA)
How on earth does a naturally pretty and smart female diffuse female envy, mostly over appearance, toward her? I am "her" and I work with about 20 women, about 15 of which I really truly believe wish I would get hit by a truck and die. They mercilessly slander me via gossip behind my back and perversely enjoy and incite other new coworkers, successfully, to do the same. I needn't say or do anything. It's phenomenal. They fuel their own hatred toward me.
Going to work is like going into the Twilight Zone where there is an obsession with me. Like a secret war that hasn't been officially declared due to its petty nature, but nevertheless continues. I mean these people are cookoo and because so many of them are nutso simultaneously, they encourage each other on and have completely gone into irrational mode because there's not a decent one among them to keep them in check reality-wise.
I swear it is like stepping back in time to 1938 and watching the masses of German citizens happily unleash a mad man. And the director of my department is the queen bee of envy who adores a misogynist male coworker of mine who doesn't do her a darn bit of justice as her subordinate and meanwhile he despises me and uses the jealous nature of the female to incite my female coworkers further against me.
I work at Jealousy/Vanity/Bully Central. For those jealous women who want to debate that what I'm experiencing may be the cause of a personality flaw on my part - go someplace and sell denial. For those who are familiar with what I've described here and have found a successful method to diffuse female envy and become a human being in the workplace (versus an OBJECT of envy), please offer what you have to say here. It would be much appreciated. Thank you!
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